Cancel the whoo and pack away the hoo...

[byslantedlight]

...my wallet has sodding well been lost and/or stolen - and really the latter cos I know exactly almost to the second when it must have gone, and the petrol station says there's no sign of it, and there was a car right behind me waiting which can't really have failed to see me drop it, and they didn't hand it in...and... and...

So just many many bad words, and cancelled banks cards, and I'd just drawn out £50 - fifty whole pounds - and had loads of stamps in there, and... and... my driver's license, and all my store cards and bookshop cards which effectively had money on them, and... oh, just waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

And the worst thing is that I really can't think it's been anything but stolen (granted from my own carelessness - and I'm usually so careful of it...) because there's just no where else in between the moment of paying for petrol/tucking it under arm when I put petrol cap back on and my realising it was gone that it could have been - and no way else that it wouldn't have been handed in already when someone found it...

So now it's all that horrible sick feeling when you know that a) you've done something stupid, and b) someone has proven yet again that human beings are selfish nasty creatures from under rocks.

And I still have all that work to do. Just... waaaaaah (and sorry for the whinge, but... waaaaaah...) That'll teach me. I'd told myself that of course I could spare 3 hours out of about 16 to not work and to go and see The Mocking Jay with a friend, and if only I hadn't done that and hadn't stopped for petrol, and hadn't... you know, been born... *sighs and sobs a bit more*

/whinge, honest, but... just one more waaah....

Remind me that there's anything good in the world...?

Attempted list of good things in world
- going to cinema with a friend
- getting my passport back (and it being too big to fit into my wallet...)
- erm...

Comments

[ali15son.livejournal.com]

oh i know that feeling well ..the new year just gone i lost my purse after just drawing out £200 , someone found it at the side of the road , the cards were still there but the money had gone . I felt so sick afterwards and there were lots of what ifs after ..so sorry .

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

It's such a horrid feeling isn't it - all the what-ifs and but-why-didn't-I-s and so on, for one tiny careless moment that feels worse when its something you're usually so careful about... If I was always putting it down somewhere that'd be one thing, but I'm always so careful of it, cos it's got all my stuff in...

I'm at the trying-to-tell-myself-it's-not-the-end-of-the-world stage... It's just money and convenience, that's all. No one's hurt, no one's in a storm-tossed boat cos they've lost their home cos other people are fighting, it's just money and convenience... It's not helping with that horrible sick feeling yet, but maybe it will... And thanks...

[msmoat.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, that's horribly rotten. I'm going to hope that it somehow does turn up. (I once returned a wallet a couple of days after it must have gone missing.)There are lovely people in the world, but there are the other sort as well. It's still terrific that you have your passport, and you went to the cinema, and the lads are here (and, boy, wouldn't they go after the rotters, if only they could.)

Sending good vibes your way for massive improvements for the day!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I was so looking forward to coming home, and making happy replies to comments from my happy-post this morning, and getting on with work, all relaxed and efficient after a break... just gaaaah!

There's a wee bit of me still hoping that the blokes behind me did see me drop it but were too late to catch me, saw there was ID in there and decided it'd be quicker if they came and dropped it back to me than gave it in at the petrol station... but I have to admit that I'm pretty low on faith in people these days, so...

I think my day has flatlined (there's nowhere nice for it to go tonight, cos I'm just home on my own working now) but I am trying to remind myself that ultimately it's just a bit of money and a bit of inconvenience, and that's nothing compared to all the truly horrible things that are happening to people around the world right this second... So good vibes are definitely very welcome, thank you! And ha - maybe it'll help to try and imagine what the lads would have done if they'd seen it happen... yeah, a much better idea, that... *g*

[ariss-tenoh.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry this happened to you. The self-blame is usually worse than the actual loss^^

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's proper wise, that is... It's true... if I can stop kicking myself long enough to get on with life, then the rest can all be dealt with reasonably easily... thank you, good reminder!

[ariss-tenoh.livejournal.com]

It's a loss but at least it wasn't any harm done to your person. And having re-read my comment, I hope it didn't sound
condescending as that wasn't the intention.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Oh, no I didn't think you sounded condescending at all - I really honestly did think that's the proper way to look at it, and so true. It's not the end of the world - I said to someone above that it's nothing like being lost at sea because you've been thrown out of your own home due to someone else's war and have lost everything except what you can carry with you, and it really isn't... The feel of it is just so out of proportion to what actually happened - a bit of lost money and inconvenience. Okay, I can't really afford to lose £50+, but I can afford it a hell of a lot better than someone who's unemployed, and only has £55 to their name... It is the kicking yourself about having done something wrong that's the worst thing.... but really, I'm apparently always doing something or other wrong anyway, so even that's not the newest thing under the sun..!

All of which rambling is to say - my first reply held, you're completely right, and what you said is absolutely the right way to think of it!

[murphybabe]

Oh, I am sorry that's happened :( Could you ask the petrol station to check their CCTV for you? If you can show the police that someone picked it up and didn't hand it in, you have a chance of getting the money back, at least.

What a rotten thing to happen, though. I know worse things happen at sea etc. etc. but this has happened to you now, and nuisance and misery and blah.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Great minds... *g* I actually spoke twice to the petrol station guy, and I asked him about the CCTV, and he said that to be honest, especially at that time of day with the poor light, it probably wouldn't even be possible to see me drop it, cos the cameras are focused on licence plates, and everything else is hard to see... which makes me think but surely, cos you see stuff on Crimewatch and all from garages, but on the other hand, I can also imagine it might be true... He said he'd have a look, but... cos yeah, if someone did nick it to not-hand-in, then I'd very much like to see who it was... grr...

And yeah - it's the now (and Christmas!) and nuisance and misery and blah of it that just... *sighs* And thanks...

[merentha13.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's terrible! I'm hoping that somehow the wallet will be returned to you. Cancelling and replacing everything is so frustrating. Sending wishes your way for a better day tomorrow.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I still have a wee hope that maybe someone thought it'd be quicker to drop it off to the address they found in the wallet rather than hand it in to the petrol station... but it's very very wee, I must be honest... I'm currently telling myself to buck up and get over it though - and those wishes help, thank you!

[jessebee.livejournal.com]

HUGS YOU MUCHLY

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Thank you thank you thank you... *wan smile*... it's only a bit of stuff, it really only is, and I know that... and I will buck up and get on with work (*sighs*)...

[dollidaydream.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry. It's a week ago today that I lost my bank card and £300 (mostly due to my own idiocy, actually) so I know a little bit how you must be feeling. The self recrimination hurts more than the loss in some respects. When I cancelled my card the bank had a new one to me, literally, in a couple of days, so I hope that your new ones come quickly. What are you going to do for money in the meantime? Will you be able to get some from the bank with other ID? I'm so sorry, sometimes the world sucks. :( xxx

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Oh nooooo - wallet is bad and fiddly and inconvenient cos of everything in it, but oh, it wasn't £300 though... I'm so sorry to hear that... That aside, it really is the kicking yourself and beating yourself up that's awful, you're right... I will stop it any minute now...!

I'm hoping that I can go to the bank on Monday and they'll let me show ID and withdraw money - though of course my photo-driver's-licence was in my wallet...*headdesk* - and there's another £20 right there for a replacement...). When I cancelled my cards they both reckoned I should have new ones before Christmas itself, so that'll be something - and my cupboards are reasonably full, though I could really have done with a bottle of wine right now... Hmmn, come to think of it, I bought tonic the other day, and there's a bit of gin left... and limes... And there is the tiny hope that perhaps they'll still find the wallet, minus the cash, but otherwise reasonably intact... I hope you've had good things since you bank card was gone...

[londonronnie.livejournal.com]

Oh no, how horrible! Not a nice Christmas pressie for you at all.

Have you contacted your local police to see if it's been handed in there? I found a wallet in a shop a year or so ago and I wasn't entirely sure if I could trust the people working there so I took it to the police station rather than handing it over to the shop staff. Might be worth a phone call anyway.

Here's hoping that you have a nice surprise and that it does turn up. But *ACK!!* all the same.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I actually did try to contact the police to report it, just in case - but it turns out that the local station is closed at this time of a Saturday, and when I tried to find a phone number you just get 101 for non-urgent, and when you try to call that Skype thinks its an emergency number (cos Skype is that smart...) and won't let you do it, and when you go outside into the rain and dark to get a signal and call on your mobile, and choose "lost property" from the menu it just tells you to go to the outsourced website to report it online there, and when I tried that before phoning you have to tick a thing that says it was definitely lost and not stolen, and it was lost first, and in theory I suppose that means that it's finders-keepers unless I make a claim on it which I can't do if it's been nicked after being lost, but... but what I wanted to do then was ask the local police for advice about reporting it (cos of my driver's licence, at least), only the phone menu says they don't deal with lost property so presumably they'd... oh, I don't know! What I really just want to be able to do is phone the local station and ask them what I need to do - but I effectively can't do that until Monday! Ack!

But there's a little bit of me that's hoping someone nice and decent like you picked it up and thought exactly what you did, and that I'll at least get all my cards and stamps and things back... so yeah, crossing my fingers for a nice surprise!

[snailbones.livejournal.com]

You poor love, how horrible! Tons of love and big hugs, and much crossing of fingers it turns up - people can be amazing, and you so don't deserve for it to go missing/get pinched. And such a sodding nuisance to sort everything out too. Grrrrr! *more hugs*

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Thank you! I must admit that I'm a bit short on faith in people these days, but... maybe just a few more'll restore it, and maybe one of them will bring my wallet around, or hand it in to the police station... I can still be hopeful, I can... *g*

Poo

[fiorenza-a.livejournal.com]

You're right about 'big scheme', but little things matter too. Londonronnie's right about the cop shop, give them a bell, someone might have handed it in. Someone once returned a credit card I left in a hire car before I'd even realised it was missing. Good things do happen.

But have a wail and a rant first. You're entitled.

And if it's gone for good, you didn't do anything stupid, someone else did something rotten.

Sending happy karma vibes your way :0)

RE: Poo

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

The little things sting, and are very definitely not nice even when they're easily survivable... I'm a bit short on faith in people being nice and good just lately, but maybe if I see a bit more of it then it'll kick back in - and maybe one of them will return my wallet... *is hopeful still*...

I do think I did summat stupid though - I didn't notice when it was dropped, or was too distracted to realise it wasn't where I thought it was, or to notice that I hadn't just put it away in my bag where it belonged... But the happy karma vibes are very welcome - thank you!

[siskiou.livejournal.com]

Oh, no! I'm so sorry this happened to you!

I can imagine how you must be feeling, having gone through exactly the same thing this summer.

The worst was the loss of the greencard, and quite a bit of money. Credit cards were easy to cancel, but replacing the green card was expensive, and tedious.

I was so hoping, someone would at least turn in the green card, but no luck! I just hope it's not being used for nefarious purposes by someone!

The whole experience just leaves you shaken and it takes a while, to get over it, even though there could be worse things. I've been somewhat paranoid with my wallet since.

I really hope an honest person will come forward and turn it in!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I so remember you losing your wallet, and how horrible it was - and so much worse with your green card too... and you have to wait until August for it! Though I was almost expecting to have to wait as long to get my passport back, cos they said it could be up to 6 months, but in the end it was just over two months - so I shall cross my fingers for you too! It's odd how constricting it feels, isn't it, even if you know that you probably wouldn't have gone anywhere anyway...

I'm a bit worried about my driver's licence being used for nefarious purposes now, cos now ours have photos, addresses and signatures on - too much information! But hopefully they just stole my money and chucked everything else away, and it'll be buried safely somewhere... although even more hopefully, maybe someone will still hand it in somewhere... I did actually once (years and years ago) have a lost wallet posted to me by my bank, because someone found it and handed it in there, presumably via the bank cards, cos they knew they'd have a contact for me... by that time everything had been canceled and replaced as well as it could be, but it was nice to know that someone had done that, had done a nice helpful thing...

Maybe I just need to remind myself that life happens, good and bad, even when you're as paranoid as I usually am about your wallet... that's the world, the wild world of bad luck with the good luck, and of dropping things...

[brune-arici.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry about this! A lot of love to you!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Thank you! That's definitely a cheering thing!

[mab-browne.livejournal.com]

Well, that comes under the heading of buggeration! doesn't it. I hope it doesn't dampen the holiday spirit too much for you.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Oh, it really does... I'd just been working up to holiday spirit again with the film - ack! I only hope the sod who nicked it (she says, with complete lack of faith in humankind...) needs it more than I do...

[hagsrus.livejournal.com]

Oh, bummer!

I've had three stolen that eventually made their way back, though one time well after all the hassle of replacing cards, etc.

Deep sympathy!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Three! Your city is rather living up to its reputation, then! I thought it was bad enough I've had a wallet stolen before - and actually that was eventually sent back to me via my bank of all things, but not until long after I'd gone through stopping/replacing etc... So glad to hear that your three all came back, though! And thank you...

[milomaus.livejournal.com]

Oh NO!

Poor you, that's something anybody could do without. Crossing my fingers and toes that you get it back.

Maybe as a christmas present.

Good thoughts coming your way, my shout of joy today was tremendous, I got a book in the mail!
One written by BSL!!! Imagine that! And such a wonderful card to go with it and it's got a gold backing and the words inside, the story, the love, the togetherness - just. Really - just SO wonderful!
And happy greetings from the other Mauses, Mr. Maus feels very sorry, too, he is big in beating himself up over stupid things, so can almost imagine how you feel.

The little Maus is asleep, but she was very excited about the letter earlier and wanted to open it. And wants mail, too. When I told her, that it helps a lot to write and sent something first, she was quite dissapointed, she is such a lazy writer. *g*

And more happy thoughts:
Candles and kittens and puppies and books! Walks at the beach, driftwood and making boats. Wonderful stones and the sea, the freedom to think what you want and to be able to talk with friends and family. Hot tea, a warm cosy room, soft pillows and books. The amazing thing words are. Put together numbers, that adds up, putting together letters and to get so many different words, and meanings and putting them together into love and understanding and togetherness, so much more!!!

I wish you a peaceful evening, that work goes quick and easy and a wonderful good night!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

It would make a decent Christmas present, I have to say!

POh, and I do like your good thoughts... *g* Post - yeay! And greetings to all the Mauses - sorry that Mr Maus is having a lousy time though, that's not fair...

Heeee for Little Maus being a lazy writer but wanting post anyway - that made me giggle! How fun that she was excited about the letter, too... and lucky there wasn't anything easily-accessible-naughty in it (I don't think...!), just in case!

Ohhh for walks on the beach too - d'you know I've been in the mood for the beach and the waves and wild winter wind across the sea for days now... Soft pillows and books are imminent though (I've just finished the first big job - well mostly) and am about to go to bed... *g*) And words! Love words... even the non-fiction ones that I proofread, I wouldn't be without really... Funny, this big job is all about people learning English, and it makes me want to learn another language again... maybe I should try to get back to Russian again!

Thank you for peaceful evenings - I put the Christmas tree lights on, and my wee star lights, and my blossom lights, and I made my favourite childhood comfort food for dinner, and I had a gin and tonic with lime - and that all definitely helped, as did reading nice comments here on lj... thank you! *g* Now I shall go to bed with the wind gusting around the buildings outside, and curl up for a bit with some Prosfic... *g*

[heliophile-oxon.livejournal.com]

Oh shit, shit, shit. I am so sorry. It's such a kick in the stomach, that awful moment when you're literally left standing there (looking at the broken milk bottle on the ground) and wishing you could turn back time just a few moments and make it not have happened. (I had my bank card nicked off me by sleight of hand at a cash machine a while ago. Made me feel sick when I realised a few seconds later what had happened and it was too late, and I blamed myself for not realising even though it was the other bastard's fault for, you know, stealing the card).

I am so so sorry. I'm hours late saying so - didn't see this till this minute - but I hope you've been able to stop your cards and everything. Just, ugh!!!!!! It's a real shock, too - I'm sure that sick feeling is partly to do with shock - and that takes a while to get over.

All the hugs, and tea too. {{{hugs}}}

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I think you're right that it's a kind of shock when it happens - so horrid... I'm feeling a bit better after a day, and a day when I had to focus on nothing but workworkwork for 12 hours or so, but still - yeah, shit shit shit... No kind person come to hand it in yet either... Erk for having your card stolen whilst you were at a cash machine, that's horrid for being so pre-meditated and taking-advantage of people, and just...oh, horrid... And it was their fault, and much bad karma to them...

I got my bank cards stopped pretty quickly, and the people reckoned there'd been no unusual activity on them, so I'm hoping they just took the money and dumped the rest as not worth the risk... I keep remembering other things that I had in my wallet too - like Minori's fab Oyster-card lads-sticker-cover... *sobs a bit*...

[solosundance.livejournal.com]

Oh crapola, what a misery-making thing to happen :( I've had a purse/wallet stolen twice - once on the escalator coming up from the tube to Waterloo station, and once on a bus in Brussels. Both times I remember being jostled. Ugh, and whatever the circumstances, there's that horrible feeling when you realise what's happened and you can't quite believe it and you check and check and oh bloody hell it really has happened... Like others I am hoping that the wallet will have been handed in to the cops or whatever and that the spirit of goodwill prevails. There is goodwill out there, I'm ever hopeful!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

It is misery-making, isn't it... and I'm one of those people who kept everything in in, cos I never knew when I was going to need it. I live the other side of the country now, but I always had my Oyster card in there! I woke up with that can't-quite-believe-it feeling still too - had to go and look in the car again in daylight, but it still wasn't there... I shall have to hope for people now, won't I...

[minori-k.livejournal.com]

Oh my! Poor you! You know, I experienced a similar thing back in June! I left my card holder which had a credit card on the shelf of the cell of toilet and just 10 mins later I found my card holder was stolen! And somebody got my credit card bought something by it just while I asked the credit card company to cancel it and it was less than 30 mins! How shrewd the thief was.

I hope you didn't lose Bodie/Doyle sticker I gave though...

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I remember you losing your cards - so, so awful, especially when it happens so quickly, when you realise that you were so close, somehow, to someone that unkind...

And oh, I did have my B/D sticker in my wallet too, right on my Oyster card, so I have lost it, and that's perhaps the worst thing of all, cos other things can be replaced... I was so sad when I realised that... I keep everything in my wallet, all the time, cos when I don't and I go somewhere and need something, I've always forgotten it...but you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't, as they say... Horrid, horrid people who don't hand things in! (oh, but maybe they did, or will - maybe I can still have faith...)

[minori-k.livejournal.com]

OMG!! I'm so sorry to hear that!

But don't worry. I have plenty of B/D card stickers still so I'm so willing to spare one with you ;-) You're so special to me so let me present one to you if you want it...

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Oh bless you - you really do have some spare? If you would trust me with another one, that would cheer me up no end! And this time I will only put my replacement card (with its sticker) in my wallet when I'm going to London! Thank you so much, you're so lovely! *g*

(Also, it occurs to me that if someone did take my wallet and go through the cards and so on, they might not recognise the Oyster card (which has money on it) with Bodie and Doyle carefully looking after the front of it, so even though it's horrid to have lost it, I suspect our lads (and you! *g*) might be trying their hardest to protect me... *g*)

[kiwisue.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry - whinge away, alright? I've been there, and so nice that the bank can get you cards quickly (much better than when it used to take weeks), but there's so much botheration/buggeration involved :(

Assuming they're ill-willed swine, there's a bit of a chance that if they picked it up on spec they tossed the wallet nearby (that's also happened to me) with a few things in it that weren't completely replaceable, just cash and bank cards gone. So fingers crossed something like that might still happen and someone will find it for you.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

You've spotted my last wee hope, that they'll've taken the cash and just chucked it out a window or something, and someone walking their dog will find it, and be kind enough to pick it up... Even if it's too late for the bank card hassle, there were a few things in there that can't be replaced... So I'm crossing fingers! Crossing fingers the bank'll let me take some money out tomorrow too - it'll be quite like the old days, going down there in person... begging for cash... *g*

[gilda-elise.livejournal.com]

Oh, wow, what a thing to have happened! It would be bad enough at any time, but it's really bad now! I truly do hope that someone picked it up and ends up turning it in. Now that would be a great Christmas present, indeed!

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

I'm still crossing my fingers that it was chucked where someone might pick up whatever's left in it and send it back - hoping, hoping, hoping... I suppose the bright side is that it sounds like my bank should have replacement cards out to me before actual Christmas day - just in time, perhaps, for a Christmas Eve dash to the supermarket! Cross fingers... *g*

[miwahni.livejournal.com]

Bugger! Bad enough if you'd dropped it somewhere out of view, but it sounds like whoever took it must have seen you drop it, and that just sucks. And it's not just the hassle, and the expense - it's knowing that someone has profited at your expense. Ugh! I had my wallet stolen once, many years ago, out of my handbag in my office. I was kicking myself for weeks, for not locking my office door (which opened onto the street) when I went to the loo. Only $5 in it at the time but I loved that wallet and was never able to get another one just like it.
And it was harder to get my hockey umpire's badge replaced than it was to get a new drivers' licence, I'll never forget that! It was a cloth badge and I'd only just got it, hadn't had a chance to sew it onto my uniform.